You've realized you're not the only person that was affected by the sociopath/psychopath. You're wondering what to do. Should you say something?
In this blog, I continue to refer to a sociopath/psychopath as a pathetic wretch (pw).
You're not the first. The list probably goes back as far as high school.
In this blog, I continue to refer to a sociopath/psychopath as a pathetic wretch (pw).
You're not the first. The list probably goes back as far as high school.
Somewhere in your history with the pw, it tried to find out if it's past targets/victims contacted you. It likely did this by asking indirect questions such as "Do u know anyone named ---?" If you responded yes, the questioning continued. What are their initials? What's the last name? Where do they live? etc. Do you recall this conversation? The names of the others?
There is leverage in knowing the names of people in their past. But it does bring up the question of whether they are affected. You may figure out that someone was affected but not know the name.
If you know the name of someone and have reasoned that they were affected and you're the kind of person who will have it on your conscience forever if you don't do something about it, then you should seriously consider it. It's not going to be a happy, guilt free life if you didn't choose the right thing.
This may be someone who has other evidence and maybe you have the other piece of the puzzle they need. Bear in mind you could have to testify in court some day. But you would be doing your job of putting the pw behind bars where it belongs. On the other hand, the person you try to tip off could think you're crazy.
There is a cost to warning others and a cost to keeping it to yourself basically. Your decision on what to do is comes down to "What cost do you prefer?"
There is a cost to warning others and a cost to keeping it to yourself basically. Your decision on what to do is comes down to "What cost do you prefer?"
If it helps, picture yourself on your deathbed, your life and decisions you've made are flashing across your mind. What is the decision you wish you'd made?
Unless you have irrefutable proof that someone did something to you and that it was indeed this person who did it (bear in mind sociopaths frame others and you could end up being a pawn in an innocent person's downfall), do not mention a name. You can tell the person you're attempting to help that such and such happened to you and you wanted to tell them because you think the likelihood is high that they are also affected and in what way and why. Add that you're uncertain unless you are. Absolutely refuse to give a name no matter the pressure. This is the only way to protect yourself. There, you've done your job, one more burden off your shoulders.
